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We seem to love to throw around Elisabeth Kubler-Ross' "Stages of Grief" when talking about loss and specifically, bereavement. I think the appeal is that the stages feel like something tangible, an orderly guide, to reference when we are in the throes of unbearably messy grief. Here’s my beef: The Stages of Grief are outdated and not particularly helpful, or even applicable much of the time. Kubler-Ross coined the stages in the 1960s for people who had been diagnosed with te

It’s hard to believe it’s been over a year since our Altadena/Pasadena community experienced the sucker punch of the Eaton Fire, taking precious lives and obliterating so many of the structures and contents of homes, businesses, and schools. The loss of those physical structures led to the immediate dissolution of the daily routines of our lives: the commutes we knew like the backs of our hands, our favorite dog walk routes, waving at familiar friends and neighbors...